That was last February.
(I should mention that I love the Russian authors. War and Peace is one of the great Russian novels that I haven’t read yet. Tolstoy is very different from Dostoevsky, but if you are looking for characters that embody the totality of the frail human condition, you can’t beat the Russians. They understand pain.)
Anyway, after she died, I put the book down and couldn’t look at it again until summer. At that point I decided to throw it into a box headed for charity. Then I fished it out again. Then threw it back in. Fished it out. I wasn’t ready to walk away completely.
So it’s been sitting on my bedroom floor ever since.
At that same time last year, while in the waiting room at the hospital, I also started knitting a red scarf.
Now you should know a few things:
- My mom taught me to knit.
- I am not very good, but find it very relaxing.
- I do OK with a simple pattern, but I don’t really know how to un-knit if I make a mistake.
- I made a mistake.
Not right away, you understand. I didn’t make the mistake in February. Like War and Peace, I put the knitting project down and couldn’t look at it again.
The day after the election, I picked it up and tried to knit.
But I did it wrong. Somewhere along the line, I was supposed to knit and I purled. And where I was supposed to purl, I knitted.
An experienced knitter would know how to go backward, to reverse the stitches and fix the problem. I can remember hundreds of times when my mom would rip the yarn out. But I am afraid to do that.
I am afraid I won’t be able to pick up those ripped stitches and continue.
I am left with something that feels like garbage and I don’t know how to fix it.
If I could go back in time and change it all, I would. If I could just abandon both projects I would. But something in me longs for continuity, for clarity, for perseverance, closure, fortitude and maybe just a teensy bit of hope.